Practice these powerful tips to dominate against your Social Anxiety
Following these tips have allowed me to experience situations I would have normally skipped due to my social anxiety. Follow along so they can help you too!
Summer time is here! For many, this means BBQs, get togethers, hangouts and many more fun things to do with your friends!
Unfortunately, if you’re like me, and suffer from social anxiety, this could be an uncomfortable time. It’s not that you dont want to – it’s that these negative thoughts in your mind grow until they overpower all the good and suddenly:
You’re thinking about how everyone is going to perceive you. Suddenly you’re thinking about how much they’re staring at you, or what they could possibly be thinking.
Not before long, thoughts turn into imagination which turns into feeling like your fears are reality.
Before you know it, *click*, you just bailed on the plans.
At the beginning of Isolation, hearing the words “stay inside your house” was not the worst rule I’ve ever been told. When dealing with social anxiety every single day – staying inside has become one of my most favourite things to do.
I’ve been dealing with anxiety since I was young – and even so, that fact could probably still shock a lot of people.
I’m often told that I am a very welcoming, warm, talkative person. Which is amazing to be thought of in such a way. Even so, I am really a very shy, timid, awkward, overthinking, individual.
I would love to sit here and blame the love with being alone on being an Introvert. Although, I know in my heart a lot of it is that I feel a great deal of anxiety when I interact with people.
It’s difficult when you suffer with social anxiety yet you also love people because you’re in a constant battle with yourself.
I had to learn (I’m still learning) how to combat my negative feelings with a change in mindset.
What is Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety comes in MANY different forms.
When it comes to social interactions, dealing with Social Anxiety can result in:
- Cancelling on your plans
- Leaving the event early
- Not talking / being shy
- Tucking yourself in the back and trying to remain unseen/heard
So, the question is – how do you overcome those burying feelings, push past those negative emotions out and succeed in act of social interaction?
I will take you through the tips and steps that I’ve learned throughout the years that have helped me so I can help you too.
Where is the anxiety stemming from?
We have to identify why your self esteem is hitting a low and really think about what use those insecurities are providing you.
Ultimately, when you get into your head and start feeling anxious – In comes the flooding thoughts of self doubt, insecurities, negative thoughts. It’s an ambush and in order to get in under control, you need Identify what those thoughts are so you can then flip the narrative.
What are your fears? Think about what you’re worried about. Say it out loud or write it down. You need to get it out of your head so you can see it and pick apart in order for you to change it.
What can you do - right now - or every day - to make you feel better about yourself
Overcoming self esteem issues is a day by day process. You have to work at it a little bit every single day. I’ve found that one great way is to do something that may make you feel better about yourself before going into the interaction.
This could mean :
* Doing your makeup how you like it
* Wearing your favourite outfit
* Exercising the morning of
* Eating a yummy, healthy breakfast
Overall having a great start to your day could put you in a great mood to conquer anything you want to do
Fill your thoughts with empowering words
Instead of “what if they don’t like me?” or “what if I say something stupid?”
Switch those thoughts out for thoughts like “What if this is going to be the BEST time?” or “I’m so excited – this will be so much fun!”
Focus on making the expectations in your head to be something great.
Some might think, you don’t want your expectations to be “too high” but the reality is that right now your expectations in yourself are too LOW. You have to switch your mindset or else you cannot accomplish anything.
I go more into the power of your words in my article Destroying your self doubt and achieving your goals.
"If they didn't want to - they wouldn't have"
Remember these words and repeat them whenever you get too far into your head.
It is not up to you to fill the silence
Sometimes silence can be deafening and I know that it’s easy to assume that and jump to the conclusion that you HAVE to be the one to fill in the gap but this just surges anxiousness. It’s best to just know that it’s not on you and someone will fill it.
If you don’t have anything to contribute in that moment – that’s okay. It is not your responsibility and silence is natural.
Having social anxiety is tough. REALLY tough and it is so amazing of you for taking those leaps every now and then to push yourself to new limits. You’re doing great. You are here, trying, and that in itself is wonderful.
Take a moment to look at how far you’ve already overcome. Taking steps to push against social anxiety is scary and nerve racking but you’ve done it before and you’ll do it again. You can accomplish anything.
You are so strong and so very powerful. I believe you can do this.